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Once upon a time, there is a little girl called Carmen and a little boy named Kent who was born on July... Okay la, stop bullshxt la.... 6th of Julay is the day that our class gathering once again after a long stop. This time we were celebrating for Carmen and Kent who was July baby. Wish them all the best in 21st birthday... This is the moon la~!!! Stupid don't know why took moon photo also...

The time when we reached Red Island Cafe...
Main actor for the night, cake...
Both so sweet lo, wishing together tim... Haha
Time to blow the candle... TOGETHER too....
Opps, why they are writing a? Signing love letter for each other? Carmen summore look so sweet when writing tim ^^
Hey, i tought ring exchangetime tim... Anyway, they are just writing blessing words for each other la... Haha
Smile... July baby...
After so many couple photo, time for us to join also...
And, my turn... Muahaha...Help them to pose love tim~!!!
Really so many of us lo... Long time never see this senario le...
Esther, Theng Theng, and Hui San
Two soh lou... Tian Xiong and Caleb
Ladies...
Haha, always seek chance to take photo with birthday girl.
And of course this two soh po...

So many photo le... Upload till die... I want stop already la... Anyway, our very beloved group photo... Don't know why stand so front also... This photo very yong sui le...

June 4, 2009 is my only cousin sister's "BIG" day... It's her wedding day!!! First station at Segamat. I seldom been Johor. Em, can say totally don't know what kind of place is it. Anyway, it's not my turn to drive so i just sleep in the car. All the way to Segamat, it makes me feel that Segamat is full with oil palm tree and rubber tree. Other than that? None... Ohya, many temple too... Got one temple very impressed me, call "青龙岩" if i am not wrong~! Okay, time to go out... The dinner set at 6pm but Malaysia time, 7pm started journey, 7.30pm reached and start the function.
Wow, this car very smart le... Is couple car o~! so the bridegroom was driving... (By the way, remember buy empat ekor le, i specially took for you all one ^^)

Hello~! I am back again~! Today special is 5 Love Language

Every people will have different type of love language. Somehow, despite all the best intentions, our messages crossed and never seemed to land. Therefore, misunderstanding, miscommunication and hurt feelings built up until the relationship forced to end. Most of the time, ending occurred not because lack of love, but he/she or even you were not feeling loved.

So, if we are able to know our love language and your partner's one, it will hep us more in developing better relationship. There are 5 types which are words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time and finally acts of service.

1. Words of affirmation - If this is your love language, you will feel happy when your partner give you a genuine compliment. If without the affirmation, you may feel insecure. You will feel loved when your partner expresses appreciation for the small thing you do.

2. Receiving gifts - If you are this type of people, you might need visual symbols of affection. However, it does not mean that you are materialistic as you may simply respond to tangible illustration of love in relationship. A home-made card or small gift can speak volumes if it is suited to the recipient.

3. Physical touch - It means that you need bodily contact. It does not mean sex intercourse or intimacy, this love language may included all type of touch from holding hand, hugs, kisses to cuddling. However, you must first identified what kind of touch are pleasant and what are irritating so that you don't piss him/her off. ^^

4. Quality time - If quality time is your primary love language, you will feel neglected without time spent specifically focused on each other or doing something together.You enjoy sharing thing that you like with he/she especially it is about something that they passionate about too...

5. Acts of service - If this is your dominant love language, you feel loved when your partner do something pleasure or smooth to you. You will be glad receiving his/her helping hand. For example, doing chores, cooking dinner, taking care of something you used to do as responsibility or serve you a hot drink when you feel cool without being asked.

As a conclusion, each people will have different type of love language. If you are able to find out what you would like your partner to do for you and communicate about it. It will definitely help you both leading to a happier life. ^@^

Today i wanna start our exhibition 2nd topic, The Characteristic of Healthy Love.

For those who having healthy characteristic they must consist of 20 aspect as following:

1. They allow for individuality.
This means that even without he/she beside you, you still able to do your work well. Not being too dependent to he/she as sometimes too much dependency, it will scared your partner. 2. They experience both oneness with and separateness from another.
A healthy relationship, they must able to adjust themselves. What i mean by adjusting is that they are able to enjoy their sweet moment together and be independent and do their job well when they are alone.
3. They bring out the best qualities in self and another.
Why does it say so? As you are having a girlfriend/boyfriend, you will definitely doing your best to show how meaningful he/she does to you right? So do her/him. Therefore, it will help you both to bring out what you can do best~!
4. They accept endings.
In a relationship, there is no guarantee nor warranty to ensure us that this relationship will last how long or even forever. (I not really trust in forever also, this old grandmother story has no longer work on me... Haha. ) Therefore, a healthy relationship must also included accept break up with peaceful heart. No matter how much your love to his/her, you must understand his/her feeling. If he/she has no longer loving you nor due to any other reason, there is no point you wanna force him/her to stay. Correct?
5. They experience both openness to change and exploration.
Besides, a couple that are in good terms of relationship must able to accept changes and both can develop new hobby, taste or even knowledge.
6. They invite growth in the other person.
This what we always said when someone is in love, their opinion is they are getting more mature in order to be capable to take care of their partners. So, in this concept, a couple must able to growth not their physical but mentally growth.
7. They experience true intimacy.
Sometimes, when people look at the word "intimacy", they will think of sexual activity. But in a healthy relationship, the true intimacy is that both of them are mentally sufficient on each other. They can feel each others love without a speech. They can trust each other and treat each other sincerely.
8. They feel the freedom to ask honestly for what is wanted.
Maybe some will said, it isn't so hard to ask what you want hnestly. However is certain condition, people may feel uncomfortble, or even don't dare to ask for what they want. Why? They are affraid~! Affraid of their partner's anger or unhappy. This is not a good syndrom. If you feel that you partners are having difficulty to tell you what they want honestly, you might have to think of how you treat him/her. ^@^
9. They experience giving and receiving n the same way.
This is what we used to say, give and take. In a relationship, we shall not be the only give or only take character. It's theory is just as same as a mines. If we only take out without put back, it will finished soon and what left after that is an empty hole. So, plaese be generous to your partner and yourself. Practise give and take theory.
10. They do not attempt to change and control the other.
Many people know this principle, do not change or control your partner if you really love him/her. However, only few of us can did it. Why, as we always think of our self ONLY. We always hope that he can be the one you want. But we never consider that he/she is already the one you loved~! You love the way he/she is therefore you go to him/her, am i right? So, let he/she be himself/herself, okay?
11. They encourage self-sufficiency of partners.
As he/she already did his/her best, be appreciate for what he/she did for you. Not everyone can love you so much, so be glad for what he/she sacrifice for you.
12. They accept limitations of self and other.
Non of us is perfect~! Remember this carefully and think of you own limitation. Now, think of his/her limitation. You both are actually having same problem... We are never perfect so stop blaming or even complaint for his/her limitation. Stop saying he didn't work hard so cannot get promoted nor she is not pretty enough like my friend's gf~! Must remember you have defects too. If can't accept, why still want own him/her?

SORRY, 13 to 16 i miss out... Will be back soooon...

17. They express feelings spontaneously.
For those who have difficulty to speak spontaneously, ask yourself why? Because you worry he/she will angry you? If you are in a healthy relationship, both shall express their feeling spontanouesly as you trust each other and it should it block you from telling him/her the truthness in you heart. So, think again... Can you?
18. They welcome closeness, risk vulnerability.
Every human being will go through argument time. No matter with parents, friends, teachers, siblings or even your partners, you should always welcome this. Why? Only people that can go through these hand in hand, their relationship can last long.
19. They care with detachment.
Detachment... Sometimes, people will feel that they have a hard time separated from their partners. As time past, they feel that it is hard to maintain distance love. However, a healthy love condition tells us that if you really do love him/her, you will care about him/her no matter where you are. Distance should not be an excuse for searching or even switching to other target.
20. They affirm equality and personal power of self and other.
Finally, both shall affirm equality. It means that you may not say that you can go out at night but your girlfriend cannot as you are boy. Or you say that you can look at other guys but your boyfriend cannot as girl are more straight to their lover.

This is the 20 characteristic of healthy love. So, i hope that it does help in building a better relationship for you all... ^^

Hi, i am back again... Now let us continue the journey of Love, Sex and Relationship exhibition. In my opinion, i mean only my own very little opinion... This exhibition can consider quite success as we have many visitor... Thanks for the hard work of all helpers.

See, lazy Pang always search for camera shot... Haha ^^Our exhibition booklet.
This is the psychological checklist. There are many type, but i prefer Love Language one even though many question...
One of our door gift. But soon it become the quiz price... Why, as there are not much left. In order to prevent out of stock, we force to la... So don't angry or upset for those who didn't get it ya...
This is the exhibition about the cervical cancer, i quite encourage girls join it... We having a cervical cancer health care talk on 1st July. Welcome... It is at PJ campus.
Okay, the most famous quiz price... Clinelle goodie bag.
Opps, this is mine la... I got one chocolate hehe... Thank you Ms Loh and Ms Jessica... ^#^
Finally this is our booth and our hard work... Nice or not? (Those say no nice de, i very sad de la...)

Counseling and Wellness Week has just past... Now only i manage to post up the photo. First post about CWW is that we have assigned to decorate the board. After having meeting, we have our final decision. I tend to show you all the draft, but after a long thought, it is better to make it a secret for those who never been that exhibition. ^^ You will know after it is done. I mean next post. It's our idea le...

This two drawing is based on the "precious moment". May not looked alike but i like it very much... Is Pang's piece of art le~! He really talented in this area!! Gambateh o~! While the coloring is done by me(male) and Hui San(female). Cute le~! I think not so bad right? Hehe~~~
Our theme "Love, Sex and Relationship" Pei Ching not from our society but she did a good work for us as you know without machine, we have to use blade to cut the polestrine is really troublesome!!! Of course we are not that bad la... Hui San, Rachel and i also help along~! ^@^Hehe, our effort... Nice anot? I like this photo very much o~!And this is me, alone. Don't know where my wraist and leg go, only left upper body... Haha~My massy house... It take us long time to clean the color and polestrine as it flied all over my living room!