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Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Hello~! I am back again~! Today special is 5 Love Language
Every people will have different type of love language. Somehow, despite all the best intentions, our messages crossed and never seemed to land. Therefore, misunderstanding, miscommunication and hurt feelings built up until the relationship forced to end. Most of the time, ending occurred not because lack of love, but he/she or even you were not feeling loved.
So, if we are able to know our love language and your partner's one, it will hep us more in developing better relationship. There are 5 types which are words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time and finally acts of service.
1. Words of affirmation - If this is your love language, you will feel happy when your partner give you a genuine compliment. If without the affirmation, you may feel insecure. You will feel loved when your partner expresses appreciation for the small thing you do.
2. Receiving gifts - If you are this type of people, you might need visual symbols of affection. However, it does not mean that you are materialistic as you may simply respond to tangible illustration of love in relationship. A home-made card or small gift can speak volumes if it is suited to the recipient.
3. Physical touch - It means that you need bodily contact. It does not mean sex intercourse or intimacy, this love language may included all type of touch from holding hand, hugs, kisses to cuddling. However, you must first identified what kind of touch are pleasant and what are irritating so that you don't piss him/her off. ^^
4. Quality time - If quality time is your primary love language, you will feel neglected without time spent specifically focused on each other or doing something together.You enjoy sharing thing that you like with he/she especially it is about something that they passionate about too...
5. Acts of service - If this is your dominant love language, you feel loved when your partner do something pleasure or smooth to you. You will be glad receiving his/her helping hand. For example, doing chores, cooking dinner, taking care of something you used to do as responsibility or serve you a hot drink when you feel cool without being asked.
As a conclusion, each people will have different type of love language. If you are able to find out what you would like your partner to do for you and communicate about it. It will definitely help you both leading to a happier life. ^@^
Every people will have different type of love language. Somehow, despite all the best intentions, our messages crossed and never seemed to land. Therefore, misunderstanding, miscommunication and hurt feelings built up until the relationship forced to end. Most of the time, ending occurred not because lack of love, but he/she or even you were not feeling loved.
So, if we are able to know our love language and your partner's one, it will hep us more in developing better relationship. There are 5 types which are words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time and finally acts of service.
1. Words of affirmation - If this is your love language, you will feel happy when your partner give you a genuine compliment. If without the affirmation, you may feel insecure. You will feel loved when your partner expresses appreciation for the small thing you do.
2. Receiving gifts - If you are this type of people, you might need visual symbols of affection. However, it does not mean that you are materialistic as you may simply respond to tangible illustration of love in relationship. A home-made card or small gift can speak volumes if it is suited to the recipient.
3. Physical touch - It means that you need bodily contact. It does not mean sex intercourse or intimacy, this love language may included all type of touch from holding hand, hugs, kisses to cuddling. However, you must first identified what kind of touch are pleasant and what are irritating so that you don't piss him/her off. ^^
4. Quality time - If quality time is your primary love language, you will feel neglected without time spent specifically focused on each other or doing something together.You enjoy sharing thing that you like with he/she especially it is about something that they passionate about too...
5. Acts of service - If this is your dominant love language, you feel loved when your partner do something pleasure or smooth to you. You will be glad receiving his/her helping hand. For example, doing chores, cooking dinner, taking care of something you used to do as responsibility or serve you a hot drink when you feel cool without being asked.
As a conclusion, each people will have different type of love language. If you are able to find out what you would like your partner to do for you and communicate about it. It will definitely help you both leading to a happier life. ^@^
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Today i wanna start our exhibition 2nd topic, The Characteristic of Healthy Love.
For those who having healthy characteristic they must consist of 20 aspect as following:
1. They allow for individuality.
This means that even without he/she beside you, you still able to do your work well. Not being too dependent to he/she as sometimes too much dependency, it will scared your partner. 2. They experience both oneness with and separateness from another.
A healthy relationship, they must able to adjust themselves. What i mean by adjusting is that they are able to enjoy their sweet moment together and be independent and do their job well when they are alone.
3. They bring out the best qualities in self and another.
Why does it say so? As you are having a girlfriend/boyfriend, you will definitely doing your best to show how meaningful he/she does to you right? So do her/him. Therefore, it will help you both to bring out what you can do best~!
4. They accept endings.
In a relationship, there is no guarantee nor warranty to ensure us that this relationship will last how long or even forever. (I not really trust in forever also, this old grandmother story has no longer work on me... Haha. ) Therefore, a healthy relationship must also included accept break up with peaceful heart. No matter how much your love to his/her, you must understand his/her feeling. If he/she has no longer loving you nor due to any other reason, there is no point you wanna force him/her to stay. Correct?
5. They experience both openness to change and exploration.
Besides, a couple that are in good terms of relationship must able to accept changes and both can develop new hobby, taste or even knowledge.
6. They invite growth in the other person.
This what we always said when someone is in love, their opinion is they are getting more mature in order to be capable to take care of their partners. So, in this concept, a couple must able to growth not their physical but mentally growth.
7. They experience true intimacy.
Sometimes, when people look at the word "intimacy", they will think of sexual activity. But in a healthy relationship, the true intimacy is that both of them are mentally sufficient on each other. They can feel each others love without a speech. They can trust each other and treat each other sincerely.
8. They feel the freedom to ask honestly for what is wanted.
Maybe some will said, it isn't so hard to ask what you want hnestly. However is certain condition, people may feel uncomfortble, or even don't dare to ask for what they want. Why? They are affraid~! Affraid of their partner's anger or unhappy. This is not a good syndrom. If you feel that you partners are having difficulty to tell you what they want honestly, you might have to think of how you treat him/her. ^@^
9. They experience giving and receiving n the same way.
This is what we used to say, give and take. In a relationship, we shall not be the only give or only take character. It's theory is just as same as a mines. If we only take out without put back, it will finished soon and what left after that is an empty hole. So, plaese be generous to your partner and yourself. Practise give and take theory.
10. They do not attempt to change and control the other.
Many people know this principle, do not change or control your partner if you really love him/her. However, only few of us can did it. Why, as we always think of our self ONLY. We always hope that he can be the one you want. But we never consider that he/she is already the one you loved~! You love the way he/she is therefore you go to him/her, am i right? So, let he/she be himself/herself, okay?
11. They encourage self-sufficiency of partners.
As he/she already did his/her best, be appreciate for what he/she did for you. Not everyone can love you so much, so be glad for what he/she sacrifice for you.
12. They accept limitations of self and other.
Non of us is perfect~! Remember this carefully and think of you own limitation. Now, think of his/her limitation. You both are actually having same problem... We are never perfect so stop blaming or even complaint for his/her limitation. Stop saying he didn't work hard so cannot get promoted nor she is not pretty enough like my friend's gf~! Must remember you have defects too. If can't accept, why still want own him/her?
SORRY, 13 to 16 i miss out... Will be back soooon...
17. They express feelings spontaneously.
For those who have difficulty to speak spontaneously, ask yourself why? Because you worry he/she will angry you? If you are in a healthy relationship, both shall express their feeling spontanouesly as you trust each other and it should it block you from telling him/her the truthness in you heart. So, think again... Can you?
18. They welcome closeness, risk vulnerability.
Every human being will go through argument time. No matter with parents, friends, teachers, siblings or even your partners, you should always welcome this. Why? Only people that can go through these hand in hand, their relationship can last long.
19. They care with detachment.
Detachment... Sometimes, people will feel that they have a hard time separated from their partners. As time past, they feel that it is hard to maintain distance love. However, a healthy love condition tells us that if you really do love him/her, you will care about him/her no matter where you are. Distance should not be an excuse for searching or even switching to other target.
20. They affirm equality and personal power of self and other.
Finally, both shall affirm equality. It means that you may not say that you can go out at night but your girlfriend cannot as you are boy. Or you say that you can look at other guys but your boyfriend cannot as girl are more straight to their lover.
This is the 20 characteristic of healthy love. So, i hope that it does help in building a better relationship for you all... ^^
For those who having healthy characteristic they must consist of 20 aspect as following:
1. They allow for individuality.
This means that even without he/she beside you, you still able to do your work well. Not being too dependent to he/she as sometimes too much dependency, it will scared your partner. 2. They experience both oneness with and separateness from another.
A healthy relationship, they must able to adjust themselves. What i mean by adjusting is that they are able to enjoy their sweet moment together and be independent and do their job well when they are alone.
3. They bring out the best qualities in self and another.
Why does it say so? As you are having a girlfriend/boyfriend, you will definitely doing your best to show how meaningful he/she does to you right? So do her/him. Therefore, it will help you both to bring out what you can do best~!
4. They accept endings.
In a relationship, there is no guarantee nor warranty to ensure us that this relationship will last how long or even forever. (I not really trust in forever also, this old grandmother story has no longer work on me... Haha. ) Therefore, a healthy relationship must also included accept break up with peaceful heart. No matter how much your love to his/her, you must understand his/her feeling. If he/she has no longer loving you nor due to any other reason, there is no point you wanna force him/her to stay. Correct?
5. They experience both openness to change and exploration.
Besides, a couple that are in good terms of relationship must able to accept changes and both can develop new hobby, taste or even knowledge.
6. They invite growth in the other person.
This what we always said when someone is in love, their opinion is they are getting more mature in order to be capable to take care of their partners. So, in this concept, a couple must able to growth not their physical but mentally growth.
7. They experience true intimacy.
Sometimes, when people look at the word "intimacy", they will think of sexual activity. But in a healthy relationship, the true intimacy is that both of them are mentally sufficient on each other. They can feel each others love without a speech. They can trust each other and treat each other sincerely.
8. They feel the freedom to ask honestly for what is wanted.
Maybe some will said, it isn't so hard to ask what you want hnestly. However is certain condition, people may feel uncomfortble, or even don't dare to ask for what they want. Why? They are affraid~! Affraid of their partner's anger or unhappy. This is not a good syndrom. If you feel that you partners are having difficulty to tell you what they want honestly, you might have to think of how you treat him/her. ^@^
9. They experience giving and receiving n the same way.
This is what we used to say, give and take. In a relationship, we shall not be the only give or only take character. It's theory is just as same as a mines. If we only take out without put back, it will finished soon and what left after that is an empty hole. So, plaese be generous to your partner and yourself. Practise give and take theory.
10. They do not attempt to change and control the other.
Many people know this principle, do not change or control your partner if you really love him/her. However, only few of us can did it. Why, as we always think of our self ONLY. We always hope that he can be the one you want. But we never consider that he/she is already the one you loved~! You love the way he/she is therefore you go to him/her, am i right? So, let he/she be himself/herself, okay?
11. They encourage self-sufficiency of partners.
As he/she already did his/her best, be appreciate for what he/she did for you. Not everyone can love you so much, so be glad for what he/she sacrifice for you.
12. They accept limitations of self and other.
Non of us is perfect~! Remember this carefully and think of you own limitation. Now, think of his/her limitation. You both are actually having same problem... We are never perfect so stop blaming or even complaint for his/her limitation. Stop saying he didn't work hard so cannot get promoted nor she is not pretty enough like my friend's gf~! Must remember you have defects too. If can't accept, why still want own him/her?
SORRY, 13 to 16 i miss out... Will be back soooon...
17. They express feelings spontaneously.
For those who have difficulty to speak spontaneously, ask yourself why? Because you worry he/she will angry you? If you are in a healthy relationship, both shall express their feeling spontanouesly as you trust each other and it should it block you from telling him/her the truthness in you heart. So, think again... Can you?
18. They welcome closeness, risk vulnerability.
Every human being will go through argument time. No matter with parents, friends, teachers, siblings or even your partners, you should always welcome this. Why? Only people that can go through these hand in hand, their relationship can last long.
19. They care with detachment.
Detachment... Sometimes, people will feel that they have a hard time separated from their partners. As time past, they feel that it is hard to maintain distance love. However, a healthy love condition tells us that if you really do love him/her, you will care about him/her no matter where you are. Distance should not be an excuse for searching or even switching to other target.
20. They affirm equality and personal power of self and other.
Finally, both shall affirm equality. It means that you may not say that you can go out at night but your girlfriend cannot as you are boy. Or you say that you can look at other guys but your boyfriend cannot as girl are more straight to their lover.
This is the 20 characteristic of healthy love. So, i hope that it does help in building a better relationship for you all... ^^
Hi, i am back again... Now let us continue the journey of Love, Sex and Relationship exhibition. In my opinion, i mean only my own very little opinion... This exhibition can consider quite success as we have many visitor... Thanks for the hard work of all helpers.
See, lazy Pang always search for camera shot... Haha ^^
Our exhibition booklet.
This is the psychological checklist. There are many type, but i prefer Love Language one even though many question...
One of our door gift. But soon it become the quiz price... Why, as there are not much left. In order to prevent out of stock, we force to la... So don't angry or upset for those who didn't get it ya...
This is the exhibition about the cervical cancer, i quite encourage girls join it... We having a cervical cancer health care talk on 1st July. Welcome... It is at PJ campus.
Okay, the most famous quiz price... Clinelle goodie bag.
Opps, this is mine la... I got one chocolate hehe... Thank you Ms Loh and Ms Jessica... ^#^
Finally this is our booth and our hard work... Nice or not? (Those say no nice de, i very sad de la...)
Friday, June 26, 2009
Counseling and Wellness Week has just past... Now only i manage to post up the photo. First post about CWW is that we have assigned to decorate the board. After having meeting, we have our final decision. I tend to show you all the draft, but after a long thought, it is better to make it a secret for those who never been that exhibition. ^^ You will know after it is done. I mean next post. It's our idea le...
This two drawing is based on the "precious moment". May not looked alike but i like it very much... Is Pang's piece of art le~! He really talented in this area!! Gambateh o~! While the coloring is done by me(male) and Hui San(female). Cute le~! I think not so bad right? Hehe~~~
Our theme "Love, Sex and Relationship" Pei Ching not from our society but she did a good work for us as you know without machine, we have to use blade to cut the polestrine is really troublesome!!! Of course we are not that bad la... Hui San, Rachel and i also help along~! ^@^
Hehe, our effort... Nice anot? I like this photo very much o~!
And this is me, alone. Don't know where my wraist and leg go, only left upper body... Haha~
My massy house... It take us long time to clean the color and polestrine as it flied all over my living room!
This two drawing is based on the "precious moment". May not looked alike but i like it very much... Is Pang's piece of art le~! He really talented in this area!! Gambateh o~! While the coloring is done by me(male) and Hui San(female). Cute le~! I think not so bad right? Hehe~~~
Our theme "Love, Sex and Relationship" Pei Ching not from our society but she did a good work for us as you know without machine, we have to use blade to cut the polestrine is really troublesome!!! Of course we are not that bad la... Hui San, Rachel and i also help along~! ^@^
Hehe, our effort... Nice anot? I like this photo very much o~!
And this is me, alone. Don't know where my wraist and leg go, only left upper body... Haha~
My massy house... It take us long time to clean the color and polestrine as it flied all over my living room!
I am back, wakaka... Oh my poor baby... Why look so boring? Haha, this photo took when last wednesday me and Hui San go Jusco Selatan Green Box. Wierd? As there is only two of us go sing K. Each room have 3 mic, but we only needed two... It does sound wierd for me but i think that day we quite enjoy it...
Don't feel bored, i am back... Adjusting the camera just now la~!!! Say cheese~~
Yeah, another shot... It's like that lo without help of anyone... I forced to put my camera near the screen there. Luckily it di
It is really hard to believe that only two person can sing for three hours!!! Amazing~ But i do hope that go in small group will definately better~! Hui San, don't sad for the first photo ya~! You look cute enough~
Sunday, June 21, 2009
This blog should be posted on Saturday, but i keep on delay it. It's been a long time i never been purple cane tea restaurant already. When i was in secondary school, one of my favorite place to hang out with my best friend was purple cane. Not only because of the nice name, but also due to the environment. Now, i am already a third year uni student, so can imaging how long i never been there lo~! Haha... This restaurant is at Midvalley Garden, the one i used to go is at Pasar Seni... ^@^
Last time the menu was not like this. Slightly smaller if i am not mistaken... I can spend my whole afternoon at there le~! Don't know how i made it also...
Now everything also change, even plate and chopstick also nicer... Haha
This is not tea~! Is soup!!! My chicken wine and tea soup... I wonder why they put in it also, but it is really cheap. Only RM5 per pot... And nice too...
Nah, this is the tea pot with original tea... Pu Er if i didn't spell wrong. ^^
Em, don't know what the mee called already, just remember that every dish here is cooked along with their tea leaf. It's their specialty la...
Sorry, not included this la, they say is new so no tea leaf... It's bitter but my mom order it already, what to do?
My mom, every time same position... Next time must teach her other...
Em, this is me. Nice le... Drinking tea le... Thirsty? Sorry, finished. Haha...
That is my day with mom on Saturday, and we actually shopped till very late. Around 10 only we realize most of the shop start closing. Then only we went back... However, just a small advise, don't go back on 10pm as the parking exit will be freaking jammed... Scary sial... Haha
It is Father's Day again... I wish all fathers in the world Happy Father's Day.
They are using electronic cooker le~! Good, no more smoke and oily environment. ^^
I don't know how many we order, i just remember the waiter keep take the food come...
My favorite. I love mushroom!!! Not matter what type, muahaha...
This dinner should paid by me, but my dad say my money is his money also. Wakaka~
I seldom take long time to think of my dad as he is always look so fierce to me. We actually have a long period never talk to each other. I think that is what people said "cool war". Think back few years time, my thought on how i treat my dad is still so fresh. I couldn't remember why we entered to that kind of relationship but one of the reason was he hit me. I was so mad with him and i decided not to talk to him. I wonder why i will think like that, in order not to scold or hit my him, i should not talk to him. That time my mind keep telling me speak more, suffer more. Our relationship walk through in that unhealthy way.
To be honest, i scare of him from the bottom of my heart. However, my mom is the one who suffer most. She always said "non of the mother in this world will hope that their child having cool war with their parents". She always told me when i was kid, how close i am with my dad. She always tell me those grandmother story till i also wonder is it true. But there is no point my mom cheat on me right.
My mind change don't know since when. And most important is my dad's attitude also changing. He started to ask me things like how the camera works, how to print this and that, how to email his partner and so on. As time past, we started to have normal conversation. I never thought that our relationship will get well back. Now, he will even joke with us... My mom say maybe as aging, people tend to be more gentle and kind. I think so if not such miracle will never happen.
I am glad with it and i really hope that i have chance to bring them travel whenever i have my job soon. I love you, dad. Even thought you used to be a scary devil. ^v^
By the way, the restaurant have their own website,
check it out if have time ~ www.steamboat.com.my
This year i didn't buy present for my dad as i am going to bankrupt due to eating and spending too much. Last few years i forgotten what have i bought. Anyway, there is always a dinner of course. I not sure when is it, but i remember one year where i bought my dad to eat "bak kut teh". However, in such a day waiters always busy walking here and there. So, they brought us the dishes without the main dish -- "bak kut teh". I still remember my dad wait till quite angry that time and once we finished the meal my dad paid~! And of course COMPLAINT!!! Haha, and he swear not to go there eat anymore. Ya, that's my dad. Hot temper and easy get mad. Opps, forget introduce today dinner. We went for steamboat at Sri Petaling, it's name is Ho Ho Restaurant. It really killing me as i never went out for dinner with parent in such earlier time. 5 something we already reached... Break record!!!
They are using electronic cooker le~! Good, no more smoke and oily environment. ^^
I don't know how many we order, i just remember the waiter keep take the food come...
My favorite. I love mushroom!!! Not matter what type, muahaha...
This dinner should paid by me, but my dad say my money is his money also. Wakaka~I seldom take long time to think of my dad as he is always look so fierce to me. We actually have a long period never talk to each other. I think that is what people said "cool war". Think back few years time, my thought on how i treat my dad is still so fresh. I couldn't remember why we entered to that kind of relationship but one of the reason was he hit me. I was so mad with him and i decided not to talk to him. I wonder why i will think like that, in order not to scold or hit my him, i should not talk to him. That time my mind keep telling me speak more, suffer more. Our relationship walk through in that unhealthy way.
To be honest, i scare of him from the bottom of my heart. However, my mom is the one who suffer most. She always said "non of the mother in this world will hope that their child having cool war with their parents". She always told me when i was kid, how close i am with my dad. She always tell me those grandmother story till i also wonder is it true. But there is no point my mom cheat on me right.
My mind change don't know since when. And most important is my dad's attitude also changing. He started to ask me things like how the camera works, how to print this and that, how to email his partner and so on. As time past, we started to have normal conversation. I never thought that our relationship will get well back. Now, he will even joke with us... My mom say maybe as aging, people tend to be more gentle and kind. I think so if not such miracle will never happen.
I am glad with it and i really hope that i have chance to bring them travel whenever i have my job soon. I love you, dad. Even thought you used to be a scary devil. ^v^
By the way, the restaurant have their own website,
check it out if have time ~ www.steamboat.com.my
Monday, June 8, 2009
Last weekend i went to my cousin house as his wife has just gave birth a baby boy. He is so cute and yet so small... I wonder how can baby grow so fast. My mom who stand next time me said "See, this is how you look like when you are small, now only you realize how hard to raise you become this size~!" SWT~ However, it is true. To raise a kid, it take thousand of effort and time.
See, this baby boy only 5 days old le~!!!
Cute, sleep with sweet face~!
Ta Dar!!! His face is even smaller then Jolly Shandy... Haha
Opps c, guess he is angry with that comparison, suddenly wake up and cry pulak.. ^@^
Okay okay, it's alright. Daddy here~ Muack, kiss back o~! (My cousin is a handsome dad, haha)
See, bully me!!! Dad hug straight away smile back, so bad lo~!
Time to back, this photo actually not related. Just show new camera function only... haha, journey back and the sun is very big and round in real life. Yet, camera got it's weakness also la...
Here is some of the photo i editted using camera feature. Enjoy ya
OMG, i am big head~!
Now is headeche turn... Sobsob~
Wth, you compare me with a Jolly Shandy~! Geramnya~!!!
Cute, sleep with sweet face~!
Ta Dar!!! His face is even smaller then Jolly Shandy... Haha
Opps c, guess he is angry with that comparison, suddenly wake up and cry pulak.. ^@^
Okay okay, it's alright. Daddy here~ Muack, kiss back o~! (My cousin is a handsome dad, haha)
See, bully me!!! Dad hug straight away smile back, so bad lo~!
Time to back, this photo actually not related. Just show new camera function only... haha, journey back and the sun is very big and round in real life. Yet, camera got it's weakness also la...
Here is some of the photo i editted using camera feature. Enjoy ya
OMG, i am big head~!
Now is headeche turn... Sobsob~
Wth, you compare me with a Jolly Shandy~! Geramnya~!!!
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